The advancement of counselling is a procedure which involves the person as an individual. It is a long process which necessitates the person to reflect and adjust the “being” he or she thought she was. We carry excess baggage which needs to be removed and offloaded in order to make way for new growth and expansion. In order for this to take place we interact and have relations with people which they in turn reflect back some of whom we are.
This seems profound to most people but for those with intent on self development it is an opening to new self discoveries. It is not a wishy washy journey but one of learning and of open hearts. Its efficiency depends upon how much we really want to face the deepest fathoms of ourselves. We spend too much time on what was or what is to be instead of seeing and feeling what is.
The very mentioning of the word change puts people into a new state of anxiety, however it is the transformation which takes place during the pain and the moving away from the comfort zone which many find difficult. Nevertheless, the real work and “eureka” moments happen when we pull ourselves away from the fear which prevents us from progress.
Many want change but fear the result even though the result will be something to embrace instead of rejecting it in its virtual and imaginary form.
Counselling is not something to be ashamed or embarrassed of, as, many believe it denotes there is something wrong with the person, on the contrary it denotes that a person has taken a stance against their fears and unjustified assumptions; along with all the past suppressed emotions which need to be catalysed into being released.
Many a time everyone seeks a special situation to be able to speak freely without judgement, but fail to find it among those less versed in the skills of counselling, but will finds it when they need counselling.
There can only be benefit which arises out of counselling, even when the client is faced with a situation they long forgot and buried it is beneficial for their progress. There can only be transformation out of pain.